Do we truly know or understand a man’s role in society? And are we fully aware of our most cherished values in society? These are questions that should be present in our minds. Furthermore, they should be a foundation for a distinguished gentleman living in modern times. Men are providers and protectors. Men have a strong connection with the power of giving. At the same time having a solid understanding of the beauty of modern masculinity is a pillar of a distinguished gentleman.
Men confuse masculinity with machoism, dominance, and the strength of our biology. While it relates to men’s assertiveness and inherent stability, it defines a much broader and more meaningful aspect of men. Masculinity is, at least to us, the use of those evolutionary or inherited qualities towards giving, providing, and protecting those around us. Leading by example, nourishing and paving the way for future leaders and the type of men this world needs.
History of Men
Men have evolved from the need to be gender-responsible for bringing food and providing a safe environment for themselves. Period. It is this simple stereotype and gender association that has played both a beneficial and dangerous role for men in society. But before we get into that, we must understand the history of men. Where do we come from? How did we evolve? The role of men in society is deeply tied to the history of men.
The history of men is a risky and counterbalancing act of patriarchal order. Furthermore, it is perceived as a specific configuration and result of gender practices. It is ultimately justifying men’s dominance in society and more specifically within that patriarchal order. From the very early stages of our development men have biologically evolved to be the physically “stronger” gender. The biology of men evolved through constant environmental exposure to hunt and building. This naturally entails both the physical and psychological aspects of our development.
These various historical foundations continued to determine the history of men in more recent times. Specifically, the psychological aspect of our evolution triggers a sense of dominance and superiority that often leads to various historical clashes and aggression. Men frequently confuse their physical and mental development with dominance and superiority.
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The Role Of Men In Society
It has been determined through research and case studies that the role of men in society is not only determined by the dual antagonism between masculinity and femininity but also by the contrast between different groups of men. This constitutes differences originating from class, race, or social disparities. These various factors play a strong correlation between masculinity and the role of men in society.
The meaning and view of the role of men in society are vastly dependent on culture and lifestyle at a micro-level. A significant addition to the concept of ideal masculinity and the role of men in society is attributed to various factors. Which influenced society, especially during the modernization of society in the latter part of the 18th century. In more recent times the role of men and perception of masculinity has drastically changed.
Interestingly, it has shifted back to the dual antagonism between the two genders. The growth and empowerment of women in the workforce have increased from 35% to 55% in the last 50 years. Therefore, men are not the sole financial providers anymore. It has become a more “equal” society, and for the good, but it has introduced gender confusion in younger generations
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So What Is It?
However, certain role values are universal. One of those role values is the power of giving back and positively contributing to society. As men, we should be taking proactive actions to give back to society and contribute those unique inner qualities for the good of the community. We must be team players. A man has a natural sense of leadership. True leadership does not mean dominance or a need to over-impose one’s beliefs but to nourish those very qualities within those around you. True leaders cultivate future leaders.
Men As Providers
With the growth of women in the workforce, the financial aspect for which men were responsible has been balanced. We are starting this section with that statement because being a provider is not necessarily equal to being a financial provider. Meaning, that the core distinguished gentleman value of giving back or being a provider is not just of those things that are tangible but intangible. Men can and should provide knowledge, protection, and affection to those around them. A clear sign that a distinguished gentleman is present is that sense of confidence, security, and guidance that only a true leader can provide.
Men should be that ever-flowing source of leadership.
Modern Masculinity
One of the biggest challenges men face today is overcoming stereotypes that society has imposed on men. We lack a deep sense of emotional intelligence. As well as lacking a sense of our authenticity and embracing the beauty of masculinity at its core. More importantly, without a clear understanding of ourselves, our values, and our role as men in society we create a sense that we need to be dominant and over-imposing. In other words, we confuse masculinity with macho ism which ultimately degrades and undermines those around them. Modern masculinity embraces and senses the beauty in authenticity and nourishes true leadership.
Like any true change, it starts within you. Changing those false expectations and interpretations is vital in that journey to a distinguished gentleman. But more importantly, as mentioned above it is continued with those around you, especially those upcoming generations. We as men must be pillars and walking examples of true masculinity.
It is time to embrace who you are, your authenticity, and everything that lives within you.
The Power of Giving
Give so that the upcoming generations of distinguished gentlemen have a clear understanding of the power of giving. Give so they understand the beauty in their authenticity. But more importantly, give so that those coming after you are not part of the problem anymore but rather part of the solution.
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