Not getting second looks from women? Then the hard truth is that you’re not as attractive as you think you are. The truth is, women pay attention to the finer and more subconscious details, like how you carry yourself. If you don’t tick the right boxes, you may never attract women that you truly admire. Here, we talk about the various reasons why you aren’t getting girls and what you need to do to become attractive to women.
You’ve probably heard the cliché rulebook on how to get girls: grow a beard, hit the gym, smell amazing, be indifferent, become unavailable, walk on water, etc. While these things may work on certain women (probably those with low self-esteem), they won’t help you attract high-quality women.
What’s the solution? Well, the answer to your problems lies in the numerous subconscious things that we, like men, often do. Before we analyze the various things that attract women, we need to talk about things you’re doing that are scaring the girls away. Hold on to your seats, because you may be guilty of all of them.
8 Reasons Why You’re Unattractive to Women
These are brutally and vigorously honest, but it’s for your own good.
Having A Lazy Attitude
We cannot stress this enough: lazy men are super unattractive. Men who choose to sit in front of their childish game setups are only futilely attempting to fill a certain emptiness in their lives. Perhaps to avoid reality in the form of escapism and/or to feel like they are at least winning something in life, even if it’s a virtual life. It is no secret that women find hardworking men, who are adequately motivated, attractive. The truth is, if you are lazy, i.e., you like to sleep all day, smoke pot, watch porn, have no job, no reliable income, live in your parents’ basement, play video games for hours at a time, you will never be as attractive to women—at least, not the right woman.
No one likes a lazy man. Humans are the dominant species. You shouldn’t be on your butt playing video games all day; you should be scheming and planning towards your future, building a kingdom for you and your loved ones. The more active you are in your daily life, the more confidence you will exhibit, and the more women will find you attractive.
Always Sexualising Women
Man, stop it! If you think and talk about every woman that comes your way sexually, chances are you are addicted to porn. You should stop because women hate that. No lady likes to be sexualized— women offer so much more than sex. They live, breathe, and think as well or better than the average man. So, for heaven’s sake, keep your sexual rhetoric to yourself, especially in public!
Terrible Fashion Sense
Your clothes say a lot more about you than you know. Don’t be that guy who doesn’t take fashion seriously. You are responsible for your style, so please give your clothing selections some thought. Ensure you wear clothes that are snug and in good condition. Money has nothing to do with style; it’s inherent, so don’t blame your fashion sense on the money. You can find many incredible clothing deals at thrift outlets or in online stores.
Bad Hair
Why should you care: because good hair is super attractive! And this goes beyond the quantity of hair on your head, it focuses on how you choose to style and groom your hair.
Hair is important (sorry, bald fellas). So if you’re getting paranoid about your hair loss, that’s fine; it shows that you care about your appearance. There are countless products on the internet that help counteract signs of balding. That being said, rocking a bald look can be just as attractive as a mop of hair; it depends on how you rock it. I mean, we can’t think of a manlier man than Jason Statham. If you’ve already gone bald, however, you can balance and improve your facial appearance with facial hair.
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Being A Pretender
Don’t cave into the social media bandwagon circus; be yourself. A lot of men go about living their daily lives in the worst way possible: being inauthentic. No one likes a pretender; no one, not even the pretenders. You are you for a reason. Understanding who you are, your purpose, and your worth is far more significant than anything we can think of. We chose “Walk Your Own Path” as our motto for a reason.
Understand that you are not perfect; everyone has flaws, so it’s perfectly normal to put that on display. To be authentic, wear clothes you love, talk about things you’re passionate about, and be honest about your likes and dislikes. Also, don’t do anything for the gram. Trust me, ladies love an authentic man.
Craving Attention In Public
If you’re a loud talker, you need to fix that. Women get turned off by men who talk a little too much and a little too loudly, especially in public. No one wants to hear your discussions, so lower your voice by a few decibels. Speak as calmly as possible when in public; ladies are attracted by men who can control themselves.
Worse than a loud talker is a close talker; it’s creepy. Don’t be that guy who makes a woman step back when talking; it is invasive and demeaning. Also, fix that bad breath… please.
Acting Self-Righteous
Seriously, self-righteous people are terrible people. These are people who feel like they are morally superior to others all the time. And yes, we live in a time where virtual signaling is displayed everywhere you look, both in women and men. To be honest, self-righteous people are often morally corrupt and, well, broke. No one likes them. Being wrong from time to time is gold; it keeps you humble and honest. It also allows you to grow, and if you are not growing, you are effectively dying.
Self-righteousness is a terrible trait to have. Women don’t find self-righteous men attractive at all. Rather, be humble; listen more than you speak, and understand the morals in every situation. Humble men are attractive to everyone.
The All-in-One Trait That Every Attractive Man Possesses
One tip to have them all, to attract every woman.
What is this all-in-one trait, and why do attractive men have this? Here it is:
Being A MAN With Options
Women are attracted to the alpha-male, the man with the ideas, and ultimately the man with the resources. In a capitalist world dominated by men, the impetus lies on every man to create and fashion numerous paths to various opportunities. In other words, the man with options has a Plan A to Plan Z for everything.
If a job doesn’t work out, the attractive man has options and backups. If a relationship turns sour, the attractive man knows his worth and can easily walk away knowing he has options. The attractive man is a King within, and Kings own a kingdom full of ‘options’. This is the key trait. To imbibe this trait, you need to have an abundance mindset, a mind that always looks towards the ‘next thing’.
When you come across an attractive man, you can feel a certain aura of abundance. This trait, this aura, leaves a lasting impression on women. So, rather than focus on getting women, focus on building the King within. The more you do this, the more options you’ll have in life; the more women you’ll have chasing you, and the better you’ll be able to choose from these options.
First, become a King, and the queens will follow.
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